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Over-reacting? Or just insecure? [ADVICE NEEDED: PLEASE HELP]


Is it normal for you to exchange your Facebook passwords with your guy friend? Well, forme something so insignificant as a Facebook password isn’t really a big deal but well he is different and to him it is. Anyhow so we exchanged passwords at the start he had forbidden me to look at his messages but later on he said it was okay and we both read each others conversations and it wasn’t such a big deal because we were open to each other and we trusted each other. But after I read his chat with my best friend, I feel hesitant to log into his ID. See, the other day he called me and he said that he wanted to make her his girlfriend because he felt that she would be serious with him and later that night they were flirting with each other, in a friendly way and they may not have any such intentions but maybe they weren’t and I’m just trying to reassure myself. I just feel so insecure and I have no idea what to do (I have kind of developed feelings for him and she knows about it). Then the other day I logged in to delete some message from our conversation and I read their conversation again and this time he really said it out to her that he would want her to be his girlfriend and she was all armed and ready to flirt. I am kind of stuck here. I have no right whatsoever to talk to either of them about this because 1. I am not his girlfriend to be upset at this and he is not committed to me. 2. I have absolutely no right over them. 3. Who am I the one to poke my nose in their business? 4. What reason do I have to be upset? 

As much as I realize all my faults I can’t seem to help the situation. And now, before I log into his ID even for something important I have to think about it at least ten times. And when I do read their conversations depression sweeps over me. I have no idea what to do. Is it really justified for her to flirt with him even as a joke? What if they accidentally fall in love during this whole joke? Or am I just over-reacting? Should I even care about both of them anymore? Am I being a true friend?


Who? Him? Oh, he’s just my guy friend.


Lately, I’ve been noticing a strange thing about all the guys and their attitude towards girls. They have a habit of flirting with all those girls out there aiming to please them and sometimes even starting a relationship with them. But none of them take these too seriously and these girls are just their time-pass. But at the end of the day they all have that one girl whom they really care about. They don’t think of her as ‘the one’ or even as their real girlfriend. She is just their friend but they would fight the world for her. They never show it nor express it (sometimes because they are unaware of it), but they love her deeply. When she is in danger they suddenly leap into this action mode where they would crush anything that would threaten to hurt her. However how many girls they flirt with they see this one girl  talking to another guy, they are taken over by the green monster. Overwhelmed with jealousy, they become protective and threaten to kill the person, even if it’s their best friend. This mode may be the cutest and you finally realize how much they care for you. As they all say, “Every boy wants a girl who is bad only for him.” So, as unfair as it seems, it makes you feel quite special at times. Boys, as insensitive as they may seem, they are the most vulnerable and breakable creatures alive. They really break if you leave them. At the moment it may seem that your friend doesn’t care about because he gives other girls more attention than you but deep down he can love no other like he loves you and if you get frustrated and leave then he will miss you like no other and he will apologize to you. He would give anything in the world just to have you back and you should forgive him. (But, at the same time think before you make a decision. Boys have a way with words. Make him realize your value.) If a boy really cares for you even if he “just your friend,” be with him till the end. Trust me, he’s a keeper and may be the one that really cares about from the bottom of his heart.