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Who Are You to Judge?

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Judging. We all do it and all of us have been taught not to do it, maybe the hard way, maybe the simple way. But we still do it unconcsiously or maybe on purpose. What we don’t realize is that we wasting our time doing the most stupid thing we could. honestly speaking we shouldn’t even care how a person is. If he is not close to us then who are we to say anything, we don’t really have the right to do so. and, if that person is close to us then it wouldn’t be such a pain going to them and mentioning our discomfort? ¬†Would it?

I would like to share an experiance with you. I am very bad at judging. I literally suck at it. My judgements are always wrong. (Yes I’ve judged many people too.) Ok, so there was this girl, 2 years older than me, who was known for being very arrogant and a cheapster. She had a very bad reputation and was known as a slut. So, I created an image of her in my mind based around those rumors. Well there were these sports practices and she would always smile at me. So, somehow we started talking and believe me she wasn’t even close to what i was expecting. She was so sweet and definately not a slut. And today she is my dearest bestfriend.

So you see, when you are judging people you miss out on all he fun life carries with itself. Now, I have stopped judging. Because previously all the people whom I used to judge have become my dearest frineds now.

Most of our judgements are based on the pointless rumours we hear. These rumours are such a waste of time that anybody who even believes them would be an idiot and frankly speaking most of are. Rumours, they say, are carried by haters, spread by fools and accepted by idiots. this statement is so ture. I mean how can you even think about something about a person you haven’t ever talked to let alone know. That is just plain stupidity.

Another thing, while most of us are so busy creating and spreading rumours, there are plenty of people doing the same with us. How does that feel? How does it feel to know that people around you are making up crazy assumtions and scenarios in their mind and spreading it to others. So, before you trample upon someone’s reputation think about yours first. Walk a mile in their shoes and feel their emotions. But, after that who cares? They are a mile away and you have their shoes.

Hidden Emotions

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Its astounding how some people are so skilled in hiding their emotions that nobody, not even their closest friend can’t have a single clue to what’s going on in their lives.

Yesterday, at school my bestfriend left early. I was astonished to find out that the reason why she left was because her brother was sick. Now I know its not something to be so surprised about but up until then I had no idea she even had a brother. Turned out he was mentally unstable and yeah, that’s kind of reasonable as to why she didn’t talk about him. But he was really sick and she could’ve shown some sign of grief but she was the same happy-go-lucky girl. Today I called her up and asked her the matter, well her brother had passed away in the morning at ten. but the strange thing is that if I hadn’t called her up and asked her about this, she would’ve shown up on monday acting as if nothing would’ve happened and I wouldn’t even have a clue.

What I don’t understand is how do they do it. I mean, I’ve been through a lot of stuff and never have I once suppressed my feelings. I always have to let it all out be it on my friend or somebody completely unknown. I am not a person who keeps her feelings bottled up. I understand, everybody is different but how long can they go like this without expressing themselves? Sometimes, when there is nobody to comfort me, I cry. I let it all out through my tears. But still, even after doing that I need to talk to someone. How can they just be so hard on the inside that they can just go on without letting it all out?

People often say these people are the strong ones. No they aren’t. These are the people who are the most weak ones. They have this tendency to errupt anytime when it gets too much. And trust me, when they do errupt it’s not a beautiful sight.

I agree, you can’t tell all of your feelings to everybody but you should at least put some trust in someone. I believe in expressing. Because when you don’t, it stays inside you forever and bothers you for the rest of your life.

And also to those like me, try to understand the situations of others. Take this incident for example, up until then i believed my friend had a perfect life. She had everything and she was happy. We used to point it out to her that she was not a deep person because she had never felt pain like we did. Little did we knoe she had felt pain like none of us ever will. If a person is quiet and doesn’t tell you much about their problems then that doesn’t mean they don’t have any.

And in the end I would like to encourage all those who have it all bottled up, please express yourselves. Be it through talking to a friend, writing something down, crying or maybe even scream out loud if you have to. But please, express yourselves, it’s not healthy.